Have been keeping up with your thread, just didn't have anything very useful to add. I do think with CAW being in a dither about what she wanted for so long, the separation really may just push her rather more firmly one way or the other - into staying away or returning. I guess you just need to be there for her any way you can right now, so she can appreicate you.
And enjoy your new closeness with D19
Sending you good thoughts.....
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates