I am back and finally catching up. (((HUGS))))) and a BE-LATED HAPPY B-DAY!!!!!
You have endured sooo much and DBed your butt off over the last couple of years. You really get this stuff well...and have helped me tremendously. So, that I want to thank you for.
Your W finally made a choice, took the risk....and you handled it beautifully. You gave me tons of advice when my H did the same last Feb....remember? I really relied on you and others here on the BB and took good care of myself along the way. That's all WE really only have control over. That's the harsh reality...but so true.
I think the shift will do you good....perhaps even ease the inner anxiety and you may find yourself finding some peace from time to time. I did....tho I won't pretend that I didn't have moments of aching pains.
Sounds like your job will also keep you very busy....that's good, hopefully...not too stressful with all the additional responsibilities.
Perhaps going dark or grey, like someone else suggested...would be good. Just communicate over your daughter's needs/issues....be polite, but ask no questions. Leave her in the dark with your schedule, personal plans, etc. Take time for you....without her or daughter from time to time. Meet new people or hang with those that make you laugh/smile. That was great medicine for me. Be vague....don't answer the phone or call back right away. Make her try harder to communicate with you.
You know this stuff backwards and forwards....just some simple reminders.
Know you are in my thoughts and prayers....we all care here, that's obvious!!
