A belated Happy Birthday! May this next year allow you to soar to heights never dreamed possible or probable.
As to the naked roommate--I think we all begin to take the other person for granted, or to view routines as just that--the way it is and nothing more. I think that is where the mystery comes in, making us look at the routines of our lives in a different manner. When you catch a stranger checking out your spouse, it cause you to look at them differently too, in someone else's eyes and perhaps see things differently. To CAW it is probably a comfort to sleep with you as she always had and perhaps in her mind, that is how it should be, you are the strong one and this is what she likes, so why should you change? What would her reaction be if you wore pjs to bed because you were no longer comfortable sleeping naked next to her? Make your actions about you, not her.
I'm sorry it has come to her moving out, but pershaps a dose of hard reality is what is needed for her to see clearly. Getting Back Together was teh best book I read while S.
Happy Belated Birthday, KAW! It's my Nana's 91st today.
The naked room mate thing...curious. But then all through this "that" part of your R has held strong, hasn't it? Wouldn't it seem strange for her to suddenly start dressing for sleep? It's so hard to say what is or isn't "normal" in so abnormal a situation!
I think it's great that OM is definitely out of the picture. Yeah this all likely SUCKS for his W, but it's probably better she know, huh?
KAW, hold strong. Whether it's with CAW or not, you WILL be loved as you deserve to be loved.
Thanks all for the B-day wishes. Sorry for having to be brief here, but I need to concentrate on work this week. It really helped since I tried to keep my expectations low for lackluster recognition at home. Unfortunately, in that regard I was not disappointed. I came home to a frozen dinner, but D11 enthusiastically present a card and a big kiss. Inside the card was a dollar bill, so CAW couldn't even take D11 out to pick out something for her Dad. I took the card and the dollar and displayed them on my dresser. Told her its to remind me each day of what a great gift she gave me. At 8:00 pm. D19 text messaged me "Happy Birthday". Nothing from CAW. she was quiet the entire evening.
The following day, another restructing at work. I survived the ax again, but now I'm asked to extend the scope of my job even further than before. I've gone from a department supervisor to a plant super, to now a site super ... encompassing several buildings to keep tabs on during my watch.
Saturday, CAW moved out. She did ask if she could come back Sunday to do the laundry so she would have the rest of her clothes. I said fine. She spent most of the day and we watched the football game. Well, I watch, she fell asleep for most of it. I treated for dinner with a pizza. I then cleaned the kitchen, CAW only helped out by cutting out the coupon on the pizza box (collect 15 for a free pie) which I think she kept. I brought up D11's schedule for the week and we settled on her coming here after school on Wednesday and staying overnite into Thursday as she doesn't have school that day. Shortly after, CAW abruptly decided to leave without the last load still tumbling in the dryer.
Well, back to work. Probably won't get to spend much time on the bb until this weekend ... which I have to work thru. Will try to catch up when I can ...
KAW - I'm sorry that all of these stressors are hitting you at once, my friend. When I look back at the most recent B-day happenings, I try to focus on the facts that I am relatively good health and that my children love me very much - as do yours. It is truly the thought that counts...
We'll understand if you don't check in as much due to the new job responsibilities. At least your managers think enough of your capabilities to "reward" you!
Me 52, STBEX 52 D 17, S 12 M 20 years Em Sep since 2002, Phys Sep Sept 2009
Since we're still on the subject of gifts ... I forgot to mention how I refrained from making any comment about CAW's moving out being her B-day gift to me this year ... and ohh how I wanted too. Hope that earns me a DB star. I think I need to start sticking them to the fridge to keep my head in this.
Bets, you moved?! Well that explains why this neighborhood has been so quiet this week. I'll stop over in a bit, but first let me make a pitstop at a store to pick up a homewarming gift. - there's this Greek wine I recently discovered that's really smooth...
I happen to think you earned a few DB stars for refraining from making that comment. Hey, you know I fight them too?
My lips want to utter really sarcastic comments all the time. It's only been since I've been on this journey that I stopped adding them to the mixture.
Maybe you can make a grid and put it on the fridge (your funny suggestion brought to mind D10 and my days with potty training her), and title it, "KAW's Potty Training Progress" and put those stars in it as they apply?
I'm even advocating a jar of M&Ms in the bathroom where you can take them out when you do a good job...
I've been quiet because work has kept me busy and that doggone golf tournament had me hopping. That's behind me now and I'm in a comfortable lull.
Take care, and I'm pulling for you. All of you.
Bets
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
I came home to a frozen dinner, but D11 enthusiastically present a card and a big kiss. Inside the card was a dollar bill, so CAW couldn't even take D11 out to pick out something for her Dad. 
I took the card and the dollar and displayed them on my dresser. Told her its to remind me each day of what a great gift she gave me. At 8:00 pm. D19 text messaged me "Happy Birthday". Nothing from CAW. she was quiet the entire evening. 
It is truly the thought that counts...
Hope that earns me a DB star. I think I need to start sticking them to the fridge to keep my head in this. 
Well that explains why this neighborhood has been so quiet this week. I'll stop over in a bit, but first let me make a pitstop at a store to pick up a homewarming gift. - there's this Greek wine I recently discovered that's really smooth...