A belated Happy Birthday! May this next year allow you to soar to heights never dreamed possible or probable.
As to the naked roommate--I think we all begin to take the other person for granted, or to view routines as just that--the way it is and nothing more. I think that is where the mystery comes in, making us look at the routines of our lives in a different manner. When you catch a stranger checking out your spouse, it cause you to look at them differently too, in someone else's eyes and perhaps see things differently. To CAW it is probably a comfort to sleep with you as she always had and perhaps in her mind, that is how it should be, you are the strong one and this is what she likes, so why should you change? What would her reaction be if you wore pjs to bed because you were no longer comfortable sleeping naked next to her? Make your actions about you, not her.
I'm sorry it has come to her moving out, but pershaps a dose of hard reality is what is needed for her to see clearly. Getting Back Together was teh best book I read while S.
