Quote: Could it be that she thinks she knows me so well that like with a worn out book, there is no longer any interest reading. I wonder if I need to tear out a few pages and rewrite some new ones to cause some intrigue? Something to think about.
sure why not? isn't that after all what 180's and all that kla stuff is all about?!
glad to hear that the money didn't come from om after all.
Quote: "Yes, I'm angry because my life sucks right now...
You know, I think that it's ok to say things like that at times. And this is probably one of them. Is this something you've ever done before?
I ditto what LL has to say.
You're a helluva great guy, my friend. You don't have to be "nice" all the time, and hold back. Maybe your W needs to hear you say some stuff that needs to be said. "Whatever" doesn't always cut it.
There's been more than a time or two I've had to blow off to my W to get things going in a different direction. The immediate reaction wasn't always good, but it did help to eventually change things.
My thoughts and prayers are with you, my friend.
JJ
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KAW, I didn't touch that comment about naked roommates because I have NO experience with it. Uh, when Mr. Wonderful told me he was moving out and was knee deep in acquiring an apartment and gathering all the furnishings, he had nothing to do with me... he slept in the guest room and that was the extent of our last few nights together.
Personally, I think it's wise not to pass judgment on that sort of thing. I don't think I could handle lying in bed to a naked man who doesn't love me, but then again, lots of people here are evidence that the WAS is interested in maintaining intimacy at that level with the LBS. I think each situation is unique. No one size fits all here on the BB
KAW, all I can think of here is that there are times when being the gentleman isn't suiting you well. Nor do I think CAW is expecting you to act sweet and generous either.
I think your idea about creating mystery is a good one, though. What can you do to engage a little more of this type of behavior?
Thinking of you, special one.
Bets
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
I can understand what you are feeling right now. I have often similar feeling.
CAW is in a difficult situation now. If she thinks it is not going to work with either you or the om, she must feel very unhappy and trapped. Maybe it is what my W is feeling now. Having emphathy for my W sometimes help to defuse my anger. It is just my 2 cents.
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