{{{{{{{KAW)))))))) Gentle hugs to you at this time. You are so right about significance of issues at hand. Perhaps your W is soul searching a bit...of course this would be part of her natural response.
As you know oh too well....just focus on being there for her, your daughter, and all those involved. The "giving" part of you is one of your true strengths. Give and serve those around...and God will take care of you without your even asking. Just ask for continued strength, patience, and let things flow....knowing the spirit is guiding you.
You are in my prayers...along with all these other wonderful BB friends, here.