Haven't been around much in the last year, but still DBing in for almost 2 years now. Previous postings by Darkblue, he is me. Forgot my password and new one would be mailed to old email address. Might get a new password some other way?? so everyone can see how much time I've spent around here!
Quick update
bomb - aug 2002 waw finally walked - june 03 ending the hardest part of DBing (living with the alien)
The last year has been easier to deal with WAW but harder as I have been seperated from s5 most of the week. I have him every weekend and I dedicate the whole weekend to him, usually don't even wash dishes during this time!! I often have him during the week overnight as well. He is sometimes angry but for the most part he is handling it way better than I would have dreamed. He is on a road trip just now with WAW's parents for a couple weeks and I'm missing him already, I gave him my digital camera for the trip so I hope it comes back in one piece, he is pretty careful with it.
Some of the crappy alien moments
Picked s5 up after school at 2:30 and waw didn't want me to take him back to my place (1/2 hour away) as it would cause her too much problems the next morning.. so s5 and I go back to his grandparents (her parents house) where they live, (her parents are still up north most of the time) I am welcome?? there, she showed me where the key is hidden if I need it, but s5 and I just played in the yard and waited for her to come home. Around dinner time she phones and tells me there is a pizza in the freezer I could put on for dinner. She got home just before the pizza was ready so I said my goodbys and left since I wasn't really invited, just making her life possible I guess.
I also bought a beater GMC Tracker for off-roading and she asked to borrow it so she wouldn't have to deal with the hassle of borrowing her parents car. So she has had it for 6 months, I buy the insurance and she pays me back. The funny part is it is a red convertible.
As for me I am no longer at my sales job, been doing some aviation related training since March and just about done with a job lined up as soon as I'm done. Lots of cool friends from the course so drinking lots!! got to run!!
Hey DB: Wow, what a difference a year makes. Glad you have settled in and you're making new friends. Just be careful you don't tip your elbow too often!
Son is adjusting, I'm sure its not easy. SOmeone told me recently that younger kids DO adjust easier and although you might disagree with me, I have to say I find that so. My kids just see the extreme behavioural differences in their dad and just don't know how to handle it.
So, what are you doing for $ these days? On the job prowl, or do you have a new one already?
Funny how selfish these walkaways are. Your wife is a prime example as is my H. Hate to say it, DB, but you are young and you will find some lucky woman who will appreciate the great, caring guy that you are. All the best of luck to you in this endeavor.
Glad to see you posting. Glad you went to the trouble of finding a new identity.
Seems like the same old, same old with W? And fill me in here, you are training people in flying and drinking? Seems like the two shouldn't go together?
S5's birthday is coming up soon, isn't it? I can't believe another year has passed already.
So, any differences with the relationship with W? Have you had any R talks to try and understand her goals? What are your goals?
Not working just now but considering all jobs once my training is done as I want to stay near to s5. I still see s5's pain every time I have to drop him off, he still says "I don't want you to go" and I always just say "I know" and give him a big hug. Not too many goals right now, will have to think about that. WAW still receiving crap from her parents and she talked about moving out of their house but to an area where s5 would have to change schools so we had a good short talk about that. I would prefer that he stayed in the same school and I think she will respect that. Its funny how they listen if you hardly ever say anything.
s5 just got back from a road trip with WAW's parents, said he would rather have stayed home but he did have fun when he wasn't in the truck. I took s5 back to her house (her parents) yesterday and she was late getting home, I was shown where the key was so we let ourselves in. Then WAW phones to get me to come pick her up at the marina so she wouldn't have to walk. Later I was about to leave as she was starting to get a BBQ ready and she said "Oh, I was making dinner for you too" so I stayed and had dinner and a beer and went home around 10. It was the first visit where I didn't feel any of her comments were "from anger"
Sounds like some progress! Slow and steady wins the race!
So what about you, what are your goals? Still hanging out and letting her move at her pace?
I got to do an intro SCUBA dive in May, loved it once I was over being freaked out. Need to find a course and get certified, it is still one of my goals from my get a life to do list!
Hey DB - that all sounds positive and I'm sure your son enjoyed having you there as well. Thanks for stopping by my thread. I think of you often.
Jackie: I did an introductory dive in March in England. Getting certified had been my New Year's Resolution the year H left, so it didn't happen. My English DB pal DID take the course and she got me started. Good luck with yours.
hey is this the scuba babes chat area, cool! I haven't been diving for a while but I have gone diving in cool places like Scotland and the arctic and of course British Columbia.
Hey bud, what you come back for a short period and then drop off the face of the earth? What's up? How are things going. Give us an update!
BD: SCUBA has been on my agenda for so long and then all the drama, I'm just slowly getting my life back. If I can get my butt in gear they are starting a class in two weeks. Only bad part is that bathing suits are requried. Yuck.
