It took me years to realise I am normal and not some sex crazed woman.
Hi Annette, I also thought somehow my feelings must be wrong and tended to buy into H's perception of things. This was true not only regarding the sex issue but in other areas of our relationship as well. I have anger/resentment towards him for " bullying" me into his way of thinking...but stepping back, I see the anger is really at myself for my lack of assertiveness. I keep coming back to a point made in PM and that is: when you don't assert what you want, you are actually weakening the marriage. (This is one of my mantras). I have directly seen that when I am confident and firm in what I want, I feel better about myself as an individual and have had positive results in the marriage. I can now see his defensive style for what it is and am not intimidated. When I get unsure of myself, I remember that I am doing all this for the sake of the marriage and am learning that when you make waves, you then get the opportunity to jump in them and enjoy. J
