there are ways to test if his ED issue is physical or mental. Depending on the outcome, a solution can be sought.
Either way, you are going to have to bring the whole thing to a head. It sucks to have to be "the one" in a relationship, but change has to start somewhere.
If it is physical, how do you feel about needles? He could turn his head and close his eyes.
Believe me, I know, I researched it years ago. The problem is getting him to go "back" to the drs. I know I will have to be "the one" to bring the subject up. Needles don't bother me. That would be no problem. I think the first thing I have to do is make it well known I am not happy with sleeping in separate rooms, and being virtually alone every night during the week. That tv has to have a break. Even when he is not watching tv he has the VCR recording something. He has always been that way, and its not bothered me as much as the past 6 yrs.
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are you sure you want me on your side? I will always push for action
Maybe thats just what I need I know that something has got to give. I'm real tired of the way things have been the past 15 yrs, and more so with the past 6 yrs. I also know I have to own up to my own part in all this, and find a way to let go of the resentment and anger. I have no problem with forgiving myself for needing and wanting a physical relationship with my H. It took me years to realise I am normal and not some sex crazed woman.
