Annette, there are ways to test if his ED issue is physical or mental. Depending on the outcome, a solution can be sought.

Either way, you are going to have to bring the whole thing to a head. It sucks to have to be "the one" in a relationship, but change has to start somewhere.

If it is physical, how do you feel about needles? He could turn his head and close his eyes.

I can tell that you love him, but you have to forgive yourself for having a need. It is okay to desire a physical relationship with him. In fact, it is normal. It is not normal. not to. (ooooo, bad grammar) :-)

Annette, are you sure you want me on your side? I will always push for action :-)

All the best,
-NOPkins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.