You are right, I do have to decide what I want. That seems to be my biggest problem right now.
Quote:
If for example, he finds it easier to have mechanical sex rather than passionate sex, but he has no problems increasing the amount of affection he shows you otherwise. Let him choose what point he meets your need, as long as it is within your definition
One of the BIG problems Nop is he has ED He had it before he ever had the heart problems, but now its even worse and drs will not give someone on the medications he is on something like viagra. (we tried viagra before he ever had the heart probs) I really feel alot of his problems are mental. He absoutely refused to go to counseling before.
Quote:
Find out why he finds the TV more interesting most of the time, than you. He may have a low drive, but I guarantee you that there is some underlying issue between the two of you that started the cycle that eventually changed your relationship.
He has always been into TV. He was a FF when we met and married, alot of the time he watched TV there at work. He truely enjoys some of the shows on TV. I don't think there is any underlying problem, just that he has no desire and he loves TV.... JMO
Quote:
Both of you will need to get committed to fixing your relationship in order for any permanent changes to take affect.
Has he read TSSM? He needs to discover his culpability in the relationship's decline and address it. You have to do the same.
He had it before he ever had the heart problems, but now its even worse and drs will not give someone on the medications he is on something like viagra. (we tried viagra before he ever had the heart probs) I really feel alot of his problems are mental. He absoutely refused to go to counseling before. 
