You just pointed out something that I've gotten from SSM and from this board. In the past, when asked what I wanted, I really didn't know. I said that I wanted a better SL, more sex, better sex, or something along those lines - all of which amounts to nothing. Now I can say that I want to ML two or three times a week, with once being minimally acceptable. I'm not even close to being there, but without ever stating a real goal, there is no way to measure. There's no way I could even hope to get there if I don't know where there is.
