Is it just a HDW thing?

[ShouldBHappy]

I hear ya, CeMar, but it's pretty unrealistic to expect to be wanted at all times. You may think you feel that way toward your LD spouse, but if that spouse were HD, I'm guessing you wouldn't feel turned on ALL the time.

There's got to be some middle ground, though. Because otherwise we HD spouses feel like circus animals. It's the truth.

Or clowns.

I have to say that if it ever gets to where my LDH NEVER initiates on his own or ALWAYS waits for me to to the dance of the seven veils, I'm going to be one very unhappy camper.