So he must go through all the work to raise your desire? But you are sending him a clear message that you don't normally have desire for him, thus the message is that you don't love him. You need to have desire for him all on your own. That is what HD people want. We want to be desired, not have to do X, Y and Z so that you MIGHT desire us. In fact, if I have to "encourage" the right response sexually from my wife, if she then becomes sexual, I really don't give her credit for the sex. I want to be wanted at all times, not just when I do X, Y, and Z to get her in the mood.
