Quote: --------- Glad to hear you are doing so great!!! Love to hear when people are doing good. Congrats! ---------
Thanks!
We are doing great. Just in the past two weeks we have had three really intense arguments! That's probably more than in the previous three years.
I am learning not to "just walk it off", and instead address issues as they come up. That is an area of vulnerability that I am most uncomfortable with. It is hard to admit needs (at least for me). It is contrary to my upbringing. It was also one of the primary factors in our relationship going wrong.
Along the same line, I have also learned that discussion or admitting needs and requesting they be met in a reasonable manner opens a whole new avenue for traffic exchange :-) I get to find out what her needs are as well.
I am a very 'manly' type of guy. It has been very hard NOT to meet every little issue with anger. Rather I have found that the real bravado (for me) is evidenced in seeking an understanding with my wife. That has been (still is) a hard walk for me. It makes me vulnerable and that is very uncomfortable.
I am finally realizing that I can be a "mans man", the guy you want to have around in an emergency, and still be a considerate and loving husband with the kind of confidence that melts her heart at the very thought of me :-)
I thought I was a true 'lover', and maybe some agreed. I rarely failed to get considerable attention from the ladies when I entered a room but I have to tell you, I feel more and more like a real lover than I ever have before.
Sorry for the long spiel.
I hope everything is going well for you! -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
