The reason (I believe) that we HDW's get such low esteem etc. Is that we are being neglected/ignored/dismissed..whatever you wish to call it in the relatinship. Your LDW does't have that problem...she knows you want her. I know for myself that in my R with my LDH I'm left to assume he still finds me attractive etc. He doesn't show it...well, ok he didn't up until recently...things are very, very slowly moving forward. But when you are constantly rebuffed, put off...or worse of all simply ignored when it comes to physical/emotional affection it's going to affect your self esteem and how you see yourself. For the LDW & the HDW it's not the same situation at all...hope that helps a bit too :-)
