Quote: Then she said that she "tries not to" because it makes her mad that I'm not doing it with her and it's not the way to handle the situation. WTF????
Barn,
Funny you should say that. My W doesn't MB. She believes that it's morally wrong. BUT, in spite of the miserable SL I've described here, in spite of the fact that she's been turning me down with such regularity over our 28 years of M, in spite of the fact that I've begged for sex (to no avail), SHE told the C that we don't have sex often enough!! I've bent over backwards to try to resolve every excuse she's come up with. I've begged, I've initiated - only to be turned down, I've cried, I've talked, I've complained, I've dragged us into counseling, not once, but twice, and SHE complains to the C about not enough sex!
I have to admit that her statement really confused me. If she thinks we don't have enough sex, then why she not doing it? Of course, the C asked her the same thing is a little less accusative manner: something innocuous like, "And why do you think that is?" W responded with her usual litany of excuses. It seemed plain to me that the C wasn't buying it, but W didn't see that at all. She (the C) suggested some things to do to overcome those excuses, but we all knew that if those excuses were shot down, W would just come up with new ones.
But the point here is why do the LD partners refuse to tango, then either complain about not enough sex, MB to take care of themselves, or both? I don't get it. I'm no shrink, but it sure looks to me like there's something more going on here.
