Hi Mike... Your wife has not been in the position of being the higher desire partner. Even though you have backed off, she is not feeling rejected, not feeling unattractive by your lack of interest, not questioning her own appeal. She probably just feels relief that you aren't annoying her as much. She knows that even though you aren't overtly expressing your sexual needs right now, they are right there under the surface, waiting for her to come to her senses. This is different from what HDW's feel.
She is telling you that does have some desire, which is a good thing. SSM mentions how spouses give different answers to how often they ML, based on their perception of what it feels like, not on reality. I don't think she is necessarily "dishing out crap"...it may feel like she is ML more often.
Are the two of you at a sexual standstill now, or can you discuss the frequency issue and come up with a plan?
