I've read several of the women state that the lack of sex in their M has made them feel a loss of esteem and less like a woman. I think everyone that said that has identified themselves as HDW.
I've never heard anything like that as a complaint. Admittedly my W is LD. (Her admission, not just my label. Actually, she's admitted that her drive is LOWER than mine, but never that she's LD.) But I've never heard that my approaching her for sex, which I started out doing many times daily, now not at all, is important for her to feel pretty, sexy or worthwhile.
What I have heard from her is how she will undress in front of me, have sex with the lights on, and swing into the 69 position (it's happened 2-3 times). This is in response to discussions about things she's refused to try. It is followed by her saying, "So I'm a lot better than many other women. You don't have it so bad." Additionally, she estimates the frequency of sex in the beginning WAYYYYY higher than I remember it.
I've differentiated enough to know that my desires are OK, even if she doesn't want to meet them. What I don't know is if this reflects the typical HD/LD conflict or unique to my M.
Any help I can get from the Ws (HD or LD) on these issues or info from the guys about responses they've gotten from their Ws would be great. I want to give my W the credit she deserves, but I'm determined to call her on whatever crap she's dishing out. I'm not good enough at PMing yet to know which is which.
