I'm happy to see the BB fixed! But, since I'm on semi-vacation the next few days (had this AM off, heading into work for a meeting now...off tomorrow, etc) I probably won't post much until Weds. or so. I have been reading you all...!!!
Had a good weekend -- lots of good time with h and lots of good time cleaning, organizing, etc. I felt a bit sad last night -- self-imposed for sure. This AM I felt lots better -- h and I went to the gym early then hung around together in a very nice way for a bit he spent the rest of the AM studying while I cooked and cleaned...stuff I NEVER find time to do!
I'll check in later! Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Glad you're taking some time off. I love taking a day off per week...too bad I can't stay on this schedule permanently.
Quote: I felt a bit sad last night -- self-imposed for sure
Is there usually a trigger when this happens?
Quote: lots of good time with h and lots of good time cleaning, organizing, etc.
I did this as well. It's so liberating to clean old stuff out. I have two huge bags of donations...including a lot of dd's winter clothes which will not fit her come this winter. Also, I think I'm hooked on HGTV's "Mission Organization".
Well I'm back at work after almost 4 straight days off! (I did have to come in for a meeting on Monday but I'm taking tomorrow afternoon off as payback!). I got SO MUCH done -- stuff around the house, some shopping, a ton of reading, some cleaning and organizing, lots of relaxation, etc. I really love being home!
h has been working his butt off on a very important paper for school. His commitment and drive are AMAZING! He is incredibly focused and dedicated. AND, he's just been so tremendous about carving off time for me, for us, too.
We talked a bunch about the fall -- he's going to be super busy with school -- full time classes, study groups, law review most likely -- so he's suggesting that we really organize our time well to make sure that we have enough free time to enjoy -- talking about bill paying online, getting more help around the house and yard, planning food shopping and menus, etc. I think my h has evolved into ME and I've evolved into HIM! He's ALL about planning now (whereas I used to be!) and I'm much less plan oriented than I used to be (partly in response to DB'ing his issues with me!) -- anyway, I'm loving how dedicated he is to making sure we have QT to spend together.
I have to admit that it's a bit scary how much we're in sync working on rebuilding our life and home and m. together -- but scary in a riding my bike with no hands kind of way
Catching up with you all...
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Sounds like you are enjoying your time at home! It is SOOO nice.
Hope tomorrow is just as nice.
I was thinking about the same thing this am: in the early, early DB days, I would spend so much time out of the house trying to get a life. It seems that H is more responsive to me just BEING around....staying home doing things for the house, with dd, for me...etc....
I also think I've gained a new appreciation for the simpler things...the yard, cooking, reading, changing this or that around the house, etc....
Sorry for the hijack...just wanted to share that I know what you mean about really loving being home!
Quote: have to admit that it's a bit scary how much we're in sync working on rebuilding our life and home and m. together -- but scary in a riding my bike with no hands kind of way
I read this and some words popped into my head....fun, freedom (from all the stuff of the past), confidence, enjoying life to the fullest......
Sage- Isn't the sense that you are building a life together exciting, wonderful, and scary all at the same time? I am realizing that a life of emotional peace is a life where both I and my H are free to become our best selves, and to accomplish the goals and dreams we have for ourselves and our family.
GO US!!!!!WOOHOO!!! Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
Half day at work today -- leaving at noon to make up for Monday PM when I had to come into work on my vacation day! Taking my brother to lunch then will go home and do some more puttering.
Work was OK yesterday. Got home and went for a walk with h. Afterwards we got a quick dinner and relaxed at home. He was a bit tense and mildly prickly with me at first -- I suppose because he's under so much pressure -- or maybe it was me? Either way, I tried to be open and calm and after not too long I think we both felt more relaxed.
In honor of h, I would like to add another phrase to our lingo -- akin to "itchy butt" -- I will call it "Maybe he's visiting the Planet of the Apes"
The story...sometime over the weekend, h and I were in the car coming back from the movies. We had spent a lot of time together that day -- had fun, some intimate moments, etc, and were heading home after seeing something or other (I can't remember!). Anyway, I was driving and h was sitting beside me -- looking deep in thought. I was silent. I was thinking "gosh, what is he thinking about? He looks so serious! Is it me? We spent so much time together today! Is it XYZ?"
Finally, h breaks the silence and says "I've just figured out a significant plot hole in the movie 'The Planet of the Apes'. Well, besides the obvious plot holes of time travel and a planet inhabited by ape-like men." He then proceeded to tell me the results of his deep thoughts.
My h is totally adorable. Totally clever. And sometimes when he's lost in thought he's NOT ruminating on me, our m, etc. Sometimes he's just visiting the planet of the apes.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
he spent the rest of the AM studying while I cooked and cleaned...stuff I NEVER find time to do!
