The heart to conquer it...

[sage]

Myrrh -- Yah, I know that hangover feeling...

R talks are almost never a good idea, are they? They just tend to create distance, I think, and I never hear what it is I want to hear, I only reinforce ambivalence on his AND my part. H said last night that "he has been sure in the past that he wanted a divorce, but he didn't feel that way know. Then he said that he was afraid that he may never know what he wants."

For me and my sitch they just aren't -- least not in the "let's sit down and talk about this thing" -- what works for us is the dribble of sharing here and there -- it's amazing how hard it is to HEAR the stuff when it's interspersed with discussion of the laundry and work and all that -- but it's there.

Please don't ever worry about a "hijack" -- I've traveled a similar road, no? Maybe I can help point out the potholes and the landmarks?

Sage