The heart to conquer it...

[sage]

1. Does your H know about DB and this BB?

I'm not sure what h's level of awareness is re. all of this. I've never mentioned the book or theory to him.

A while back I met some local DB'ers for breakfast (and then again for dinner some time later) and I mentioned that I was meeting some people who belonged to a BB I posted to. I think I may have called it a "marriage BB".

2. Re your goal of more frequency in the area of PI: was it always this way (pre-bomb)? Could it be that your H is just LD? Does he know what your preference regarding frequency is?

I would say that yes, this is not supremely different than pre-bomb although we have gone through phases when things have been more, um, hoppin'

TBH, I don't think that h is LD per se...it may be that he's interested in varying degrees of PI and doesn't know/think that I would be cool with that. I actually think that the PI stuff does have positive and likely room for improvement w/o anyone feeling undue pressure.

I **think** he knows about my interest in increased frequeny but it may not be true...may be a communication thingy where I say he knows but he really doesn't.

Sage