The heart to conquer it...

[sage]

Pam and Minnie -- Thanks for the kind words! I am happy and grateful and proud and a thousand other positive things that h and I are where we are today.

I've been having a rough day or two (or week) at work and it really dulls my entire outlook. I've realized that when work is so hideous I start feeling as though I don't have the time or energy to really focus on my m and then I start getting worried. I have to take h's words of the other day to heart and remember that I DO have some slack...that he is happy and committed and ...

I have a question though: I'm sorry if I've asked this before.

Pre-bomb/pre-EA: was H supportive of you? Would H listen to your woes and comfort you? Or is this all as a result of your DB'g?

I think it was a mixed bag. I think that h was a lot more supportive of me than I realized but that I wasn't paying attention and/or HEARING in his language (because it wasn't my primary one). I do think, though, that he has increased his level of support in many, many areas of our lives...and that is likely a result of DB, M&V and his own super hard work. And, I think there was some element of him not HEARING my level of support for him because it wasn't in his language.

You mentioned that he was supportive of you but never talked about himself...why do you think? A similar sitch was true for me and h ... it's an area of focus for me moving forward...

Sage