Sage - Sometimes I am cruising along, reading through threads, and a piece of a post just comes out and smacks me - in a good way, of course.
Your comment about being responsible for your H's pain, but not about how he chose to relieve it, really hit me. That is an incredible insight, and one that really helped me understand things even more.
AUGH! I just can't believe how helpful that one tiny statement is to me! Also, understanding deception and an affair as a reaction to pain is a perspective that will allow me to forgive more easily, without taking my or H's contributions to the problem out of the picture.
Just had to say thank you, Sage! Hugs, Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
