Sage, Hi. I have a couple questions for you. I feel like I may have brought enough pain onto myself to really change. I know it took a lot, and may be too late for my H, but hopefully not.
Do you hold yourself primarily responsible for the past probs in your M? Do you think you drove him away, caused him to treat you poorly/lie?
Also, did you get a lot from the book "Addicted to Unhappiness?"
I hope I'm not dredging up too much for you. If so, say so. I am just questioning if I really "deserve" the treatment that H has been giving me-withholding, lying about internet porn-saying that since he was unhappy he used it and since I didn't trust him anyway, he did it. And him not wanting to be around me/take me to the weekly festival where I had 2 jealous outbursts-one outrageous? Am I totally ignorant? Some of my friends, my sis, and even his mom think he is being mean, but they don't "see" what I do from behind closed doors. Sometimes I think H should be nicer and work with me to overcome my probs. He says that this is MY prob. and that he won't go to MC because it is all me. And, the C we did go to confirmed that as well, and told him not to reassure me.
