I do believe that we have can get those doubts once in a while, normal recovery from what we go through. It sounds like things are back on the inswing. I hear that it gets better with time. And you are right we need to renew our DBing spirit and principles, we don't want to lose sight of them.
Let me say, that you are in a good place; your H is with you and you are rebuilding your M. Just remember that some of us would give anything to be where you are. So maybe it would help to know youe ARE in a good place, and I'm sure you would not trade that place for one of ours, LOL!
I'm so glad you continue to post here, and offer your advice to others, what a wonder woman! Most leave and move forward. Everytime one of you "wise" ones leave, I get withdrawal symptoms! I look around and wonder where everyone went!
Your post has to me has made me think that I need to come here and keep posting, even if it is not just about my H and I. Something to lift others up.