Quote: partly feel as though I missed an opportunity to talk more deeply with him...I think I ASSume that h is the one who shelves or dismisses closer communication but I'm starting to think that I am the one who rushes through these moments (for fear of what? being hurt?). Another thing is that in the aftermath of the discussion h said something about working hard to make our M. better and I said something like "It's already good" because I didn't want him to think I was saying it WASN'T (in my fearful reaction) but again, I think I may have missed a chance to hear what areas he'd like to focus on...planning on taking that up with hm again.
As you know, I do the exact same thing. I think that for me it's a fear of not validating, saying the wrong thing, making it worse and of course, FEAR of what he has to say.
I think it's pretty normal considering what we've been through.