The heart to conquer it...

[sage]

YOUR H handled it in such a wonderful way though. He really WAS great...and to say and know that YOU're not putting him through the wringer...well....my friend that shows that you're married to a grown-up, a loving, caring, understanding, mature grown-up!

Minnie -- Yes, h was wonderful from start to finish. The difference between how he reacts to me now and how he reacted to me pre-bomb is astonishing. He has truly worked so hard.

I partly feel as though I missed an opportunity to talk more deeply with him...I think I ASSume that h is the one who shelves or dismisses closer communication but I'm starting to think that I am the one who rushes through these moments (for fear of what? being hurt?). Another thing is that in the aftermath of the discussion h said something about working hard to make our M. better and I said something like "It's already good" because I didn't want him to think I was saying it WASN'T (in my fearful reaction) but again, I think I may have missed a chance to hear what areas he'd like to focus on...planning on taking that up with hm again.

Sage