Oh, baby, that's no summary...that's the listing of my 16 (20?) threads from the start...it might be more painful (just in terms of effort) than a bikini wax!
I do think I have a recent post that summarizes stuff...I'll look for that.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.