The best thing to do when you are ready is to start a journal on a new thread. Describe your sitch, your history, etc. and then describe the efforts you are making. What brought you to this board?
The Ann Landers comment made me laugh though it shouldn't. I just have never seen anyone mention her or her sister on this site. One thing that most of us do (or have done) is try to validate our positions with "experts" - authors and counsellors. You could counter-attack the Ann Landers reference with Dr. Laura who says that your W should basically "shut up and comply" with your every wish. Then it becomes a battle over whose expert is right. This IS a cheeseless tunnel. The best thing to say is..."I don't care what Ann landers says or what the rest of the world wants...I simply want to ML more often." Never, ever, ever say "we should" etc. Always speak from "I want" or "I would love it if...."
There are some really good posts recently that address the subtleties of some important ideas.
I need sleep!!!
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
