I'm just curious...when you asked him to read SSM, did you simply ask him to read it and leave it at that or did you give him a reason to read it? I had success getting my LDH to read the book...he too already acknowledged there was a problem but because the Dr's said there was nothing physical wrong with him he was pretty much leaving it at that...leaving me completely dangling from a limb on my own. Anyway...when I gave him the book I had already read it 3 times and highlighted the things that I really related the most to. I asked him to read the book, telling him that I really thought he would relate to several parts of the book and that I felt it would help him understand where I was coming from...then I asked him to pay particular attention to the portions I'd highlighted, because those were issues I was really suffering trying to deal with. One of which was the portion that talks about...not having sex but still expecting your partner to stay faithful to you. It took him a long time to read the book, but it was an approach that worked for me...he's now in counseling...and things are slowly improving.
