That was a great post for me! I'm sorry that I didn't see your October post, but if I had, I might have missed out on your update.
I've got to pull a Clinton here: I feel your pain! Obviously, your sitch has many elements that are outside of your control, but my ignorance of your H's disease prevents me from knowing whether the lack of sex is something he could change. Either way, your anger is understandable.
The 3:00 am thing makes sense to me, too. I have a DVD collection that you wouldn't believe. (Blockbuster calls me to borrow movies! ) 99% of them are viewed after everyone in my house goes to bed. It keeps me from thinking about what's not happening otherwise and I'm too tired afterward for anything but sleep.
Mike - hoping every day is a good one for us all (I spend bad ones trying to find my lone bullet)