I have not seen anyone here ever fill the hole in their soul without their spouse becoming actively involved with changing the dynamics of the relationship. You cannot accept what you need to fill your heart and mind.
We all try different methods of coping, but that is all it is, coping. Exercise, spending lots of time with the kids, working overtime, taking a part time job, spending time with friends, hobbies, none of it takes away the pain and it stays away.
Sex, touching, intimacy, connection, and acceptance are basic fundamental needs that should be fukfilled by our spouses. I might have a legal document that states that I am married, but in my heart, I know that my H never fully intended to participate. So in my heart, I have been abandoned by the man that took vows with me, to Love, Honor and Cherish. He broke these by not attending to basic, fundamental principles of the marriage. You just can't fill that hole by yourself because a marriage is supposed to be two people working together.
