Quote: Has anyone found an effective way to deal with the sadness of SSM?
You're not alone in feeling this way. Some of us have found solutions that work for us, but may not for you. But there are solutions out there and I'm sure the good people in this forum will share theirs.
For me, the sadness got so bad last October that one morning I lost all hope. I called my employer's hotline and they set me up with a therapist. I also got in to see my med Dr. that same day. Since then I've been on two antidepressants, which have allowed me to once again function normally.
The therapist was instrumental in getting me to admit to myself that my SSM is not my fault; that the demons of H's past have a tremendous hold on him and I should not be blaming myself.
Slowly, but surely, I'm starting to believe that. The loss of my self-esteem, self-confidence, interest in hobbies and in life was devastating, but little by little I'm getting back to living and loving life. I hope you can find that point, too.
