Me and my other half have been together almost 5 years living together 2.5 years. I know I have a higher sex drive than him, but it is not through the roof high....I would be 'grateful' if he would ml once a month. I just get soooooooo fed up with it all, he calls the shots. He says he has a bad back, but in the last few years we have had so many excuses that basically I dont believe him anymore, because the only thing that his bad back stops him from doing is ML.....so I do wonder if it is worth it anymore, this is not making me feel good about myself in fact like a lot of you have said my self esteem has never been lower.