I so sympathize with your situation. We live in the country and my LDH gets more excited over a 4-wheel pickup or a tractor than he does thinking about ML. For the longest time I tried to deal with our sitch by having a sense of humor about it...I guess I thought by doing that I wouldn't appear to be putting pressure on him. Unfortunately no matter what I did, even if he joked back, it was still pressure...on both of us.
Lately it seems no matter where you look, especially if you watch tv as we do, sex is everywhere. If it's not someone having it on tv (in a manner I'd personally like) it's a commercial on how to lift your libido or aid a failing erection. I either resentfully sit there now when these things are on tv, or simply get up and walk away when all I really want to do is throw something through the tube!
My LDH and I are getting to a better place, although our sex life hasn't exactly taken off (once in six months is hardly a record)but at least we're beginning to communicate more about it. Still I find it very difficult to joke about it.
Sometimes if feels that everyone else in the world is having sex except me (and those of you on this board of course too ;-) The fact that the media is so blatantly putting sex in our faces doesn't help at all...it puts pressure on my LDH because he watches them and can't help but notice my reaction (which I do most of the time try very hard to hide) and it puts pressure on me because it's just one more reminder that I'm lacking that in my R. "SIGH"
Right now I'm working on different approaches, in a non-pressuring manner, to see what my LDH responds best to...I'll let you know if anything works for me so you can give it a try too :-)
