I enjoyed reading your post, SD, but heck, three times?
You know, although you can call your pressure on her an expression of love, I bet she still would prefer that you not do that. Imagine that your wife's "expression of love" was kicking you in the crotch. She felt love for you, and kicked. You're doubled over, in pain, and she says, "that's just how I show my love for you, honey." You ask her to stop doing it.
Understand that I am not advocating "no pressure." As you know, I've tried the no pressure campaign before with dismal results. But I know that if my W said that I was pressuring her and I answered with "but it's just an expression of my love for you," it wouldn't fly.
Of course, that's HER problem, not mine. Like you, I'll still bring up the subject of sex, touch her, etc. I guess the difference is that, unlike a kick in the crotch, our expressions of love are a bit more reasonable and expected.
Sorry...I didn't mean this as a criticism of you, but it kind of sounds like that. I'm confused this morning. AtlDave's father's death is bouncing around inside my brain.
