It's hard for me to relate to the idea of purposely trying to lower your sex drive. I have seen other posts of that nature here( people who want to take meds to lower their drive) and it upsets me. Personally, I have come from a place of low desire and never want to go back there again. No matter what impact my sexuality has on my relationship, I never want to return to feeling sexless, even for a short period of time; having a high desire, and doing what it takes to maintain it, makes me feel alive, happy and complete as a person. I think this shows in my radiance and energy in the world, and if H can't handle it because it's "too much pressure" then that is his problem. I think you should do whatever it takes to feel good as a person and to keep your spirit going. If your sexuality has a compulsive, destructive edge to it, then I would have some concerns...otherwise, enjoy your vitality and use that zest in a positive way to make changes in the relationship. I like your idea of setting boundaries; in much the same way, I have told my lower desire H what it is I need at a minimum to keep our relationship going. He was only able to meet me at this place when he saw I how very serious I was, to the point of talking about ending the marriage...that was the kick he needed to get over his extremely stubborn attitude. Right now I am no longer starving...just hungry,lol...and our meals could use some spice, but that's another story. J
