Quote: in fact, it is the opposite of what I meant. I was trying to convey the following: two people are in a marriage that isn’t working. Both contribute their own issues. At some point, one or the other loses hope, and becomes a walkaway.
pen, i certainly wasn't laying any blame per se on what you were saying, in actuality i was asking a rhetorical question
it's so hard while in the midst of things to figure out what exactly went wrong
you can keep going back and back and back and really you can go back to the beginning of your first r when so and so did such and such - and each of us have our reasons for doing the things we do - and cast blame that we are in the sitch we are in because of such and such
the only point i was trying to make is that ultimately we have no one to blame but ourselves for the sitch we are in at the moment - no matter what it is
no matter what has happened to us - i wholeheartedly believe in we are here because of the choices we have made
i certainly don't like some of the choices i have made, and i have finally come to grips of the fact that i have to live with them, and now believe it or not i feel empowered by them
i have to converse for a minute about hindsite - what a piece of priveledged information that is eh? when we are in the midst of something we certainly cannot see the forest thru the trees, but come out of it, and look back on it, we all become experts...
huh - life is certainly funny at times
seriously, it's a kick in the pants
(i so know i am making absolutely no sense at all - but to me - it makes perfect sense...LOL)
