Hey all, I hate to type so I will try to respond as easily as I can.
Bets, You have a lot of good comments. I don't know how to put in Qoutes so I want attempt to. My wife left me to be with OM period. No she may not have thought about my feelings and still doesn't. However when you are married every decision you make affects both of you. So yes They don't think about you some. They think I don't want to be with the person anymore. I have someone better now that can give me what I want. My H will be ok one day, but I will be happy as soon as I leave.
I can say with almost 100% certainty that if she did not have OM she would not have left. She almost changed her mind anyway. She got mad at me and leased a house the next day. just like she filed for D the next after I confronted her about catching her and OM.
She does things on impulse and this was no different. The funny thing is she would not buy clothes or cars on impulse but she will end a relationship on one.
You were almost a WAW, but you decided to stay and save your M. Your H now has a second chance. I don't get a second chance because life is better without me. So yes it is a little about me.
gd1 You had valid points too. I believe we all want to love and be loved and I think we need basic fundamentals to be happy also. I know I am much happier when I have someone ZI love and they love me.
If it is so easy to be truly happy by ourselves , then why are all of us trying bring our S back and mess up that happiness. So yes we were all happier with our S. I will admit I am not happy. I'm not sure I can be truly happy witout my love. I ws single for 8 years after my first M and I was content with what I had but not happy.
I think we can be content, but be unfulfilled and lonely.
i don't think I ask for much, just to prove how much I love my W and share that love with her.
Bets Never will your advice upset or hurt me. You are a true friend and I value your insights.I'm just trying to be honest with myself.
