Quote: If I had been the WAW, I can promise you that the thing furthest from my mind would have been how Mr. Wonderful felt. I would have to be in INCREDIBLE emotional pain to feel there was no other way. Mr. Wonderful has confirmed that this statement is definitely true.
It really is not a rejection of the spouse as much as it is a coping mechanism.
how true these words are
most of you know that i was the waw for my first marriage - and these words could not be closer to the truth
for those lbs - and believe me i say this with every essense of my being - this is NOT about you - this is about THEM - this is the only way they know how to cope with the world THEY have created - THEIR perception is not YOUR perception
notice i say THEY have created, please always try to remember that this ISN'T about you
i cannnot say that enough
i have to say also, thanks for the support while i process what i need to - i have to get past this and into a place where i feel safe - i am not there yet, but i have to tell you that i am getting there much faster than i could ever work thru things before
but i have to thank each and everyone of you for being honest - honesty is SO CRITICAL to the growing of ourselves
what does the 12 step program state? admitting there is a problem is the first step?
