Pen, after reading your sitch, I don't know what to say. You see both my wives left me for a married man. My first wife ended up marrying him, he is now deceased. My current W left me for her boss where we all work and he would not leave his W.
You can't imagine the pain of being the LBS.I think I know it well. A person can stand only so much rejection. It makes you feel you are worth nothing and will never be happy again. I was very bitter towards women after my first W and after 12 years I still don't like her at all.
I have not gotten angry with my current W, maybe it will come, but I hope not. I have questioned what is wrong with me and why she doesn't what to be around me any more. What does he have that I don't. What is he saying and doing that attracts her to him.
The first one was a smooth talker and I am not. Maybe this one is too. I do know she didn't leave me for sex.
I don't think you really want to see in the mind of a LBS. It is real scary. I am scared of my own mind. i hate myself at times for not giving my W what she needed and now that I know this I have not had the chance to show her.
I never thought my W would cheat on me. I trusted her more than any one ever. I felt secure in our marriage and vowed to be with her the rest of my life. My mistake was taking her for granted and when she dropped the bomb it woke me up and I realized I had screwed up.
I have made changes but now it may be too late. Yes I made the changes for her, but now they are for me.the first D I lost 45 lbs, this time I lost 70. I would go days and not eat anything.
I don't want this post to be mean and I am glad you and your H are happy. This is just a touchy subject to me. Please forgive me if I offended you or made you mad it was not my intention. You wanted to know about the LBS mind so here it is.
Feel free to pick my brain anytime. I think it helps me too. God Bless you.
