Quote: that book on the PAs says distinctly that of all their fears the fear of change is the most troubling to a true PA. So his taking 6 months to react...well that seems like it was just a 'day's worth' of time in his brain and a direct reaction to the biggest PA fear: abandonment, rejection.
What book, gd?
This business about fear of abondonment , and wanting to 'get in there first', and 'punishing' the spouse for stuff, is just what I have been thinking about lately in MY neck of the woods. I had never heard of the term passive/aggressive until a few months ago, but the pattern of H's behaviour seems to fit the bill in many ways. I always thought some of the things he did bizarre, but it figures a little more.
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
