Bets, I think 6 months after the telling of the EA is a relatively short time for PAs to decide to leave...meaning that it seems that they process slower and that he held in his resentment for 6 months and let it seeth. Plus, that book on the PAs says distinctly that of all their fears the fear of change is the most troubling to a true PA. So his taking 6 months to react...well that seems like it was just a 'day's worth' of time in his brain and a direct reaction to the biggest PA fear: abandonment, rejection.
So yep, his withholding affection and desire is part of the pay back...I think Mr. W. is definitely punishing you and doesn't GET that at the same time he is really punishing himself. We all need to grow up
Yes, you do need to forgive all around, him included.And Ithink that forgiving comes in pieces...when he comes back it will be like a burden taken from your shoulders and that will be mostly the forgiving...and when you both feel the trust come back then it will fly away. Least that is what I remember from our reconciliation back in l995. The difference in us and you guys? I don't think we learned anything much...sadly, although we both experienced pain back then and then a resurgance of love...we just didnt' let ourselves grow and learn so ended up here now.Bummmer.
Maybe compare the ingredients to your mildshakes/drinks ...but htis stuff has a good deal of vitamins and protein and costs about $1.75 a can.I bought the 1 carb variety and French Vanilla is the best tasting.
Of course, I still gained weight yesterday....I really do this. Go on these weird binges where even NOT eating I gain wwight. But it is usually in the fall and not at a time when I weight the most ever. So it is kinda f---ed and I find myself angry at that too. Boy, for someone who rarely got angry I am FULL OF IT these days. gd
