I'm curious. And since our aquaintance is fairly recent, you have no way of knowing that this phrase of mine always precedes a completely indiscreet question, and that there's absolutely no need to answer any of them if you'd rather not. *smile*
What I'm curious about is how closely the discovery of your A and Mr W's leaving are linked - did he find out about it and leave in a huff? Did he leave, and find out about it later? Did he ask you to stop talking to OM, and you couldn't at first? Or would he have left anyways, A or not?
The other thing I'm curious about is this: we've talked about forgiving yourself, and forgiving OM - but how about forgiving Mr W for his part in the whole scenario? Have you forgiven him for being the kind of husband that would make you vulnerable to another's attentions, and then not only leaving, but refusing to make a decision about your future for such an extended time? Or is this something you've put on hold, and want to process with him once he makes a decision?
