No whacks here - I think your feelings are completely understandable at the moment. But there are a few things to mention, which I am sure you already know, and better than I do!
- Life is not 'fair,' it simply is what it is
Quote: It appears that there are little to no consequences for his choices in his life, but I'm paying dearly for mine.
- Back to the person who reminded me that I am not the one to dole out the consequences, I ask you: would you actually prefer or be happier if he was miserable and suffering great consequences? Would it make your fight easier if you knew he was fighting a similar battle?
Quote: And I'm really and truly angry at myself for not being stronger.
And I sure wish I knew then what I know now . . . Also, I read a lot about the OP being the symptom, not the problem . . . If not him, perhaps the problem would have manifested in some other way?
Nothing too profound, but just a slightly different perspective. Don't be so hard on yourself, Betsey!
