Well Tom, my W was a dear on Father's day. She got our DD3 and her stepkids (my kids from M#1) to cooperate and make me breakfast, went on a bikeride with all of us, and even took the initiative to pick up the check at dinner, (more of an "appearance" thingy, as all the money to pay the bills comes out of the same pot, but, hey, I appreciated it.)
THe only thing my W didn't do was boink me. And since I didn't really expect that she would, I wasn't truly disappointed.
As for your kids, at least they called and wished you well. But I have to agree with annette that it's really their responsibility to wish you HFD and to celebrate it with you, since you're their Dad, but you're not your W's dad. Still, three freakin' words would have been nice. Why not tell her that, in, perhaps, less of an emotional tone? And if she gives a WTF? look to you instead of an apology, then save some money next year and buy yourself something fun on Mother's Day, instead of wasting your money on her.
Hairdog - who, believe it or not, made the conscious choice not to ruin the almost-perfect Father's Day by asking his W to ML, knowing that she'd probably say no.
D21 did call and S18 wished me a happy Father's day. Something W couldn't do.
I'm not looking for anything special - just 3 words - an acknowlegement that I go to work every day and come home every night and that I am the sole breadwinner. That I took care of the household so she could go to some class for 2 weeks in Maine.
Hi! How about a "thank-you?" I guess that would require gratitude. I guess I'm good enough for that.
Quote: And if she gives a WTF? look to you instead of an apology, then save some money next year and buy yourself something fun on Mother's Day, instead of wasting your money on her.
Hairdog! I'm gonna bust a gut!!!! I know JUST what to buy, too. No. She would not approve.
Tom, I think you should talk to her about it tonight. Don't let all that good anger go to waste.
It may not be politically correct (as if I give a rats arse about that) but I happen to agree wholeheartedly with you. If she does not work, then she is honor-bound to thank you for your contributions to the household...the very contributions that allow her to stay at home and do what she (presumably) wants to do. Likewise, you should thank her for the contributions that she makes and the sacrifices that she has made in giving up a life for herself, in order to raise her children at home.
Just talk to her and tell her that you are really upset that she couldn't bring herself to say Happy FD to you.
Btw, I also think that you should have been more gracious in receiving the grill last year...it is hard to buy gifts for another person and perhaps she wasn't trying to make any great statement but to buy you the "typical" guy gift. So she was way off on your tastes...I hope that you at least had the attitude of the thought being what counts. Otherwise, yeah, you did sorta set yourself up this year to receive nothing.
I did that with Christmas last year...was a total ingrate, etc. I hope I didn't ruin my own holiday for this year!
Good luck talking to her and STAY CALM when you do.
I totally agree!! I love our Weber and just bought the bbq bible. Lots of good recipes, as well as directions for using the chimney starter deal, which I have never done. Any thoughts on that?
Personally I used to love my gas grill. You could get these chips to put on there that made it taste like charcoal grilling. I used to love cooking on it even in the dead of winter. Less mess and cleanup It kinda rusted out and finances have not allowed us to get another one. sigh, maybe soon
I use the chimney starter...three full sheets of newspaper, balled up, usually do the trick. However, don't trust it 100 percent, because it has failed me more than once. If it works, you'll know it within 15 minutes. If it doesn't, I sometimes end up squirting fluid on it (OH NO!) and lighting it. When the chimney works, you don't have to worry about that yucky fluid-taste to the food.
I have also heard people do these things to make the chimney work: 1. Put three or four briquets of "Match Light" self starting charcoal at the bottom of all the rest of the charcoal. I've never tried this. 2. Put one and half sheets in the bottom, light it, let it burn for 5 minutes, then move the chimney to another pile of about 2 sheets of already burning paper for the rest of the time. My uncle-in-law does this all the time, and likes the results.
I'm obviously serious about my barbecuing. Don't get me started on how to teste a steak for done-ness without cutting or using a meat thermometer.
Hairdog - salivating (amazingly) about something other than sex.
I didn't get any for Fathers day, but I did get told HFD from my wife so I should count my self lucky - plus my 3 1/2 year old twins each told me HFD after my wife prompted them (and this from my son who all week was asking if it was Fathers day yet LOL). So far we have ML twice this year, and I sure don't know when to expect the next time.
