It kinda sounds to me like you are a little frustrated with your dud of a fathers day. D21 and S19 should be the ones you are upset with. They are certainly old enough to make fathers day special for you. You know how youngins can be, they get wrapped up in their own worlds and sometimes forget that something might be a little special for a parent. Just my opinion, but I don't think it should be put on your wife to make fathers day special. She could certainly have moved the youngins in the right direction. Again, sorry you feel so bad about yesterday.