Quote: I got tired of trying to do what I thought was right in pleasing my H so I said (excuse my language) Fuk it..... I started hanging out with friends...
I did the same thing, sort of, without really knowing it. About 3 years ago I got into building and flying model airplanes. Spent lots of time in the basement workshop. Joined a local club, went to meetings. Not to mention the time I spent at the field flying. Now, initially, I was operating from a position of fusion, although I would not have known what to call it... I was just saying, "I gotta get outa here... get a life... do SOMEthing for mySELF." So I did. I think over time this helped me differentiate, although again I didn't know just what I was doing. I can tell you that when W and I were seeing a C during this time, she brought up my modeling activities to complain about them, but both the C and I were baffled as to WHY W was objecting, since I was ALSO spending as much time as I could with HER. W couldn't explain it either, and I guess had a minor confrontation with herself over it, because she eventually became more accepting of it...
