In my situation, I unknowingly put some things into practice. I got tired of trying to do what I thought was right in pleasing my H so I said (excuse my language) Fuk it..... I started hanging out with friends, took a class that had always intrigued me and finally rippled the pond last weekend in confronting him with my needs and desires. Not all at once mind you, but somewhat. He now knows I'm tired of the "same old crap" and once I did that, it made it a little easier to confront him with other things.
Maybe you need to ripple the pond a little at your house
